Christmas has become a more stressful and upsetting time of the year after recent government guidelines. Many are pained after waiting so long to see family, and they have to push back all their reunion plans. However, it is in these moments of woe to remember some key things:
First of all, take a moment and breathe. Relax. Remember that your health and wellbeing are the most important things, because without you, so much would be lost. Whether Christmas is just like you planned or it isn’t, stop comparing or worrying. Cut back those to-do lists and focus on you and your bubble.
Give someone a compliment
Take a moment to make someone’s day – we can get muddled up in the mayhem and forget the importance of appreciation and support. We promise it’ll bring a spark to their day, and yours.
Pain is temporary
Many have experienced grief and pain this year, and it’s okay to express how you feel. Yet, it’s important to remember that letting go of these feelings doesn’t mean you’re letting go of what caused it, it just means you are starting to live and grow from it. It doesn’t mean you care any less, it just means you are coping and beginning to live again. Remember, when the caterpillar thought his world was ending, it became a butterfly…
“What if’s” will get you nowhere
Don’t aggravate yourself and others over things you can’t control. Focus on the future, not the past, and accept the actions that have to lead you to now.
Remember the good moments this year
The football star Marcus Rashford, who campaigned with success for free school meals, or 99-year-old former British Army officer Captain Sir Tom Moore, who raised over £38.9 million for NHS charities doing laps of his garden? Or Africa being declared free of wild polio after four years without a reported case?
Or closer to home, our love and appreciation for those around us grew, our priorities realigned for good, and key workers got the recognition they deserved. We may have discovered (or firmly put to bed) cooking skills, or creativity in areas such as alternatives to toilet roll or making masks. We’ve reminded ourselves of how strong we can be in the face of fear. We’ve all become better people this year, whether we realised it or not.
From everyone at CHBVC, we’re sending you warm wishes, support, and love, and looking forward to 2021.
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Written by virtual volunteer Emily Clugston